Wash, everyday and everything. 'Nuff Said.
See how easy that is? Shower gels are great, but still use soap. I have two soaps in my shower Dial and Dove, one is great for genting clean but leaves your sking awful dry and the other leaves you smoother than brazilian wax. Do not use 2 in one shampoo conditioners, the whole idea of having two soaps is the same thing as having two seperate hair cleansers. I'm not going to tie my dial to my dove and figure, "Hey the best of both worlds." That's not how it works. That being said, scalp restorers (Dandruff Products) are proven to promote healthier, thicker and stronger hair. I don't give a fuck, I buy Garnier Fructis because it looks cool! But, (like i'd buy something just because it looks cool.) a study has shown that it can accelerate hair growth up to 2x faster than with ordinary shampoo. Am I trying to grow out my hair? No, but new hair is healthy hair.
Clothing (This Is One Persons Opinions and Suggestions)
There are many different styles right? Wrong. There are only two styles. Good and bad.
Sure there are different looks, and no question different personalities and obviously different people, but either you've got style or you don't. Let's get started.
First eliminate any notions about categories, there are none, there is no jock style, no prep style, no punk style, no urban style it's all the same. It's not the clothes that put you in the category, it's your personality, so for the mean-time forget all of your acomplishments, forget that you don't have bling, don't worry about looking like a "poser," and don't worry about being cookie cutter, follow this and you'll be one of a kind for sure.
Let's address some of the pants us guys wear.
Avoid kahki and dressy pants unless it's an occasion, you want to look well dressed not stuffy or overly-wealthy. Pick out some nice jeans, FITTED jeans, if your jeans are halfway down your ass crack then pick out a smaller size or grab a belt, they're usually next to the pants.
What you are looking for in a pair of jeans are colors, do not get all 'blue jeans' and don't get too many with those tired faded or bleached/acid washed splotches, and fit. Blue, black and white are great options and can go with almost anything. Point your hand like a gun with two fingers for the barrel, place your fingers between your hip and your jeans while wearing them, you should be able to fit two fingers or less width between you and your jeans, this is a good fit. Any more and they'll droop, any less and they'll call you "Camel Toe Joe" around the local hangouts.
You can create an entire outfit around the pants, they are the pillar. Pants tell women more about you than you can imagine. Grass stains? active. Faded from wear? Possibly a packrat. Et cetera. I'm stressing jeans in this because of their classic look and versatility, but don't be afraid to branch out. Canvas pants are nice, bermuda shorts are just enough to keep it "drafty" without being 70's baketball shorts and a pair of Just about anything simple, no fancy patterns or crazy washes and lines. If you want your pants to look like a Pollock then do it yourself, it provides a great way to start a conversation with that Brunette across the room and give's you a one-of set of trousers.
The most important thing to remember when picking out clothing is A.) The kind of indentity you want to project (I'm a classic guy I draw inspiration from Fred Astaire, Frank Sinatra, Humphrey Bogart, Carey Grant and John Lee Hooker {Look him up.}) and B.) The identity that the type of women you are most interested in find appealing. (Like Mystery says, "Don't dress like an investment banker if you're into goth girls.")
Shoes.
Shoes tell women how you take care of things in your life. Are you wearing a fresh pair or those Generics you got 3 Christmases ago?
A man who takes care of his shoes gives the impression of somebody who, how should I say this... hmmm, gives a shit. Perfect.
Each person has his own tastes in color and comfort but for the most part it's a good idea to have three different shoes, Sneakers/Gym, Classy/Dress Chill Shoes. Converse and Addidas are two of my favorites along with Diesel and Rockport. All
have a large selection of shoes which will match anyone's personality.
What am I wearing? A pair of lime green suede Chuck Taylor styles with pink laces(My playfuls) and
a pair of Corona Flips (My laid back sandals) and a pair of Addidas red and black courts (My game shoes) and Black Diesel Laceless (My "Souvenir" shoes, as in step away from my girl of you'll be taking this shoe home as a souvenir in your ass.)
The Watch
Women observe watches like pants, a man with a sporty "G-Shock" is more likely to be precevied as active (Sporty), a Man with a lighter/no frills watch is going to be seen as all about functonality (Efficent and simplistic), and a man with a thick, shiny possibly bejweled watch is all about being flashy (This conveys CHA-CHING.)
I reccomend having two watches; a sportswatch, a more casual and comfortable watch with lot's of functionality, maybe a stop-watch
built in or water resistant for when she playfully pushes you in the pool, and a Dress watch, a heavier shiny attention getter. By no means should you invest in a diamond, or crystal encrusted sterling silver beauty if you aren't willing to, instead spring for the more shiny (and cheaper) stainless steel watch, just make sure the face is fancy enough not to be recognized as a feaux dress watch.
The Shirt
Shirts are all by occasion. When going out it's good to have a funny shirt to entertain or an interesting one as a talking point.
Great places for some shirts few else will have are:
and one where you can "make-your-own" is:
I've bought from all of these places and the quality is great. I'll vouch.
Everyone should have a long sleeve button up (THAT'S FITTED.) They can pop out from under a t-shirt (A la Style) an create a whole new look. They can add an extra layer in the fall and give neck and arm protection from the harsh summer sun (A la every gay man you've ever met.)
When I say a long sleeve button up I do not mean a polo shirt, polo shirts are over played and for gods sake someone tell those idiots to put their collars down, the only popping should be caps in their asses. (Three6 Mafia you have my expressly consented approval...)
'Only retards pop their collars' as the shirt says. Not willing to drop $20+ on a shirt? Croft and Barrow make great shirts with crisp designs that cost under 12$
Every man, boy and child should go to their local department store and pick up packs of 10 Blank white T-Shirts (They come in 10 packs,
no breast pockets.) 10 Plain Black T-Shirts, 5 Plain white V neck Tees, and 5 wife beaters any color. These make great undershirts,
tehy are the best clothing to lie around in at home or when waking up at 2 PM, are excellent pajama's and 100% cotton... what does
that mean? That means she can pry them of you like they weren't even there, plus she looks super cute when she wears them.
Lessons. Collared shirt's should be used sparingly, Polo shirts are a definate No-No, t-shirts are the ultimate in comfort and chic. Hanes kicks ass.
The Loincloth
Rule #1. Speedo's are only acceptable if you are a professional swimmer
Rule #2. Male thongs are a definate don't unless your name starts with Steve and ends in "-O"
Rule #3. Throw away those kiddie boxers, your underwear should be plain or have a simple desgin. No characters, no sayings, no logos. (Unless they were a present)
Rule #4. Get rid of your breifs... NOW!
Rule #5. Replace with boxer breifs if you must.
Rule #6. If you own a pair of bikini style undies, you better be packing so bad that you're making rulers cry
Rule #7. LEOPARD SKIN PRINT IS NOT ACCEPTABLE
There's nothing worse then getting down to your skivees all hot and heavy, only to have her put her shirt back on at the sight of your Family Guy boxers... or your tighty whities. There are 3 options in my opinion. Comfort! The Classic Boxer; plaid, plain, striped. Support! The Boxer Brief; makes your tiny box seem like a monster package. And, Sexy! Now this one depends entirely on whom your sexing, Lisa age 40 doesn't get as turned on by a male g-string as Krystal age 23. Tailor this one to your partner(s) liking.
I swear by underarmour and hanes... best underware period.
Designer Clothes
Eh... Go ahead. I wouldn't wear any "Big Name" labels like Sean John or Dolche and Gabbana because it's too commercial, expensive and overly hyped. Their clothes aren't any better than what your girl picked you up at T-J Maxx. The recognition are all that makes a significant difference.
The only designer I wear is Hugo Boss (
) because Hugo knows clothes.Body Language
You've heard it before. It's been thrown around, and you may or may not have picked up on it but the fact is that the key to understanding women and people in general lies in their body language. Sub-conciously we are sending each other signals of how we REALLY feel or what we are TRULY thinking. Not only should you learn what signals you are giving, but what signals to give and how to read the signal of others.
I don't have the time, or room, to cover all the amazing subtlties of body language but I will cover some key points but they should be sufficent for our purposes.
There are only two types of gestures Stripped and Clustered, basically one is a gesture of openess and ambiguity the other is a closed with a resounding "Don't touch me there!" Something you must understand, though, is that these gestures may not be a reflection of someone's opinion of you. For instance your best bud may be acting like a dick and pushing a lot of closed gestures but it not you he's mad at he just got schooled on the B-Ball court. The lesson for males and females? Just cause they are heavily clustered, doesn't mean they're not interested, chances are they just had a bad day.
Stripped
"All in" When someone is truly interested in what you are saying or just plain interested in you their whole body will be turned towards you, face's lock and bodies parallel.
"Comfort" When someone is comfortable around you look for tell tale signs. An open body, uncrossed legs, exposed inner arms and a lean of posture. The BIGGEST sign, the absoulte largest sign of comfort is touching. I'm not talking about a handshake or a hug after a date, I mean un-neccesary, numerous and possibly erotic touching. Rather than tell you you have ketchup on your arm she/he wipes it off, I CANNOT STRESS HOW BIG FACTOR THIS IS!
"Instant Comedian" When she starts to giggle or smile at every dumb crack you make, don't book stage time. Chances are she's just interested in you and sub-conciously or purposefully trying to make you feel more comfortable. And never use that "Yo 'mama" joke again... ever.
"Eye Contact" During direct eye contact look for signs of euphoria such as playing with her hair, playing with something in her hands or tapping her feet. Don't mistake these sign's with nervousness. There are only two options she's interested in you or scared of you. So don't rush in. When she looks at you does she smile? Does she hold the gaze long, so long it becomes almost unbearable or orgasmic in itself? Does she flip her hair? Any and all of these signs indicate she is trying to attract your attention. Get up. Walk to her. Ask her if she would like to go for a walk. Take her hand in yours before she answers. Walk backwards to the door. Take a long stroll and talk... maybe more.
Clustered
"Sarcasm and exasperation" If someone is avoiding direct eye contact, rolling thier head, rolling their eye's, pursing their lips, annoyingly tapping their feet, constantly checking their watch or looking for pre-occupation then say 'nice meeting you' and walk away if she/he pursues you great, if not she/he was not interested or greatly annoyed by your presence.
"Lean Back" Contrary to what you may have heard or what you believe when someone "leans back" in a non-musical environment it is not a goo thing. When someone leans towards you they express interest and openess, leaning back is a way of cutting themself off from you, or what you are saying at that particular moment. The more prolonged they stay back, the worse the situation is (it ranges from the playful push from the table in disagreement to the corss bones style when she leans back crosses her legs, arms and/or any chance you had)
"Crossbones" A term used by players and tricks to describe people who are uptight or very closed or "just won't give it up." In body language it's when someone crosses their legs or arms to show discomfort, nervousness and/or uninterest. Try to make them feel more comfortable. But if it fails you didn't put on enough of a show, they're not interested.
Lessons
To give the impression of confidence and openess keep an open stance, spread your legs (No reason to go spreadeagle or pull a porn-star) and sit up straight.
Lean into someone when they are talking. Show genuine interest turn your body towards them and listen and always maintain eye-contact even if not in conversation and even if across the room.
Don't cross your arms or legs, it gives the impression of insecurity and uncomfort. Try placing your haeds behind your head, or spread wide across a table.
Make constant intimate touch with someone you are interested in.
Keep smiling. Feel free to get "the butterfiles" when you see someone but refrain from getting fidgety. It makes you look more nervous than anything else.
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So that's all I've got for now. Stay tuned, and give me your thoughts.
