Linkpad please listen.
You don't have to push the server forward the way you're doing. I'm sure that it's stresful with people asking 24/7 for more progress when you have a life to take care of as well. Stop the PVP server now if that's what you feel like.
You should start on the real DO server, and take it slowly, don't rush anything, and don't make it public at all before you're done. Maybe consider getting some help on your way.
Hope you'll atleast consider this :-)