I don't actually mind the fact you had problems at launching, almost every other private server had them.
What I do not like is the fact you keep pushing it forward instead of stopping and moving a grand opening a day or weak later, depending on how much time you need to fix the issues.
But no. You are forcing people to check if this is working or not all the time. Server has been offline more than it was on and I can't really understand don't you simply wipe all character and delay the grand opening.
I know, it is not easy thing to do and many people would complain, but are you happy with the current situation?
I realize you have invested a lot of working in making this server great, but something went wrong.
As for me, I gave up. I couldn't stand all the checks and restarts.
Good luck to your team and people who keep playing here.